Dear Aspiring Side Chick
Dear Aspiring Side Chick
Oh you want this ring?
You want this life?
This pretty picture of being his wife?
I know what it looks like
How the view looks to you
But there’s more to this story
Then what you believe is true
Yes, Love is amazing
Love is divine
But it comes with the delusion of what’s yours is mine...
See, you can’t take the heart
It’s given freely
You can’t possess the soul of another being
Yes, for marriage it’s written
Since the beginning of time
When you sign that paper
I’m yours, your mine...
But understand what you’re signing
What you’re giving away
This isn’t a joke, nor is it a game
With this ring?
YES... I thee wed
But with it comes power to kill LOVE dead.
So if you want this ring
Baby girl, you can take it
But take with it all the work I put in not to break it
See, You can’t take this Joy
Without taking the pain
Think you’re going to take this sunshine
And just leave the rain
You can’t take the reward
Without the sacrifice
Think you’re going to take the love
WITHOUT the price of the fight
I know what it took to get here
But really do you?
Do you know what I had to give up?
What I had to go through?
Yes. THIS Love is amazing.
And oh so very divine
But this Love right here?
Yes. THIS Love here is mine.
It was built on MY tears
MY dreams, MY sacrifice
MY will not to give up this love without a fight.
MY choice to not break, To do what was right
And MY will to fight through the darkness to the light.
So if you want THIS ring?
Then now do YOU wed
To EVERYTHING it took
To keep this LOVE from death...
-JillianFelice
I remember exactly what I was thinking when I wrote this poem.... Some may read this and think it's about a cheating husband but really it's not. This is more for that woman who looks at another woman's Marriage as "Perfect" or "Relationship Goals". The woman who if given the chance, would happily sleep with that next woman's husband because she wants what they have. Sometimes women can get so caught up in looking at someone else's relationship thinking "Goals", envying what they THINK the next woman has, without taking the time to understand how much work that marriage actually took.
Forever happy doesn't just happen.... I mean sure, in the beginning it's nice but after the honeymoon feeling wears off and you get down to the "sharing your life" part, things change. Marriage is hard work. Something I could've NEVER understood before actually being married myself. While ideals and fairytales say you get married and live happily ever after, its important to understand the amount of work it takes to keep a marriage together. In most instances, one or all of these (Sacrifices, compromises, heartbreak, rebuilding) has to occur in order to keep moving forward.
It's nice to have a positive example of what you would like for your own marriage. However, next time you look at another marriage and you think "Goals" understand you could never know what it took for them to get to that point. Unless you're willing to put in the work you'll never have that. Think of every "from the bottom to the top" success story you've ever heard. Do you really think they could have accomplished such success without all of the sacrifices, hitting rocking bottom (only to rebuild again), hard work first?