Against every single odd stacked against us, my husband and I are still married. A miracle in the truest sense of the word. So many marriages don’t survive this type of blended family chaos. There were moments I considered if walking away would be easier than dealing with her. I’m sure he considered the same.
Read MoreSo many scenarios went through my mind on the many ways I could destroy her. I could crash and burn her entire marriage down around her wearing a smile on my face with one carefully crafted sentence. However, the second I felt my soul turning black an alarm rang in my head and more importantly, my heart.
Read MoreHate. It’s such a strong word. Even deeper and complex in meaning. I can’t really remember many times in my life where I’d felt outright hatred towards anyone. Of course, I could remember times where I’d been extremely upset, but beneath all the anger was always one singular emotion. Hurt. Hurt is often the root of any negative emotion we feel.
Read MoreI was in an episode of Punked. Where was Ashton? This went beyond just a simple lie to cover the truth. She was straight up trying to defame his character while simultaneously making herself look like the abused ex-wife. What was even more astonishing was the number of people who believed it.
Read MoreThe way she chose to react to all of this told me everything. Aside from pick-up and drop-off communication, we went back to not speaking at all. The whole CPS ordeal would take about 4 days in total and the case would close just 2 days later.
Read MoreShe chose to change her profile picture to a picture of her son from MY wedding! I think my mouth quite literally hit the floor when I discovered this because a few thoughts crossed my mind.
Read MoreI was beginning to see this was all out of my league. This wasn’t like dealing with a normal person. She needed serious therapy. It was quite a realization to see how someone could appear so completely normal, but have all of these underlying, very disturbing traits, beneath the surface.
Read MoreThe WEIRD factor was off the charts. But even after all of this, ask me how much more would have to happen before I got those shoes back… And even then, what I would find out after I finally DID get them back would BLOW. MY. MIND. Just wait…
Read MoreI now knew, based on everything she’d told me, I’d unavoidably walked into the situation at a deficit. There was nothing I could’ve done to make her like me. No matter who it was that stepped into my husband’s life next, they would be the enemy to her and it wasn’t personal.
Read MoreShe never came to the car when we picked him up unless she had something to say, which wasn’t often, and definitely NEVER when I was the designated picker-upper, so I had no clue why she was now walking to my car without him.
Read MoreI didn’t think it was possible for this woman to shock me more than she already had but you know what they say... “Knowing is not necessarily accepting and what shocks us most is having no idea why we should be so shocked.”
Read MoreWas this revelation hurtful? Absolutely. But if I’m being honest I have to say I was probably more upset than I was hurt and more relieved than I was sad. The hurt came from the realization of her malicious intent. However, I couldn’t discount my relief. It’s hard to stay mad or sad when you realize the bullet you’ve just dodged.
Read MoreI almost feel dumb considering how long it would take me to put all of the pieces and clues together. So much was about to happen over the next two weeks that my mind would actually be blown!
Read MoreIt didn’t make sense to me. How do any two people talk? There was no way she would’ve phrased her question in that way if she didn't know more. It was in that moment, staring her straight in the face I begin to wonder if SHE was, in fact, the mole.
Read MoreWhen she said that my head FLUNG around to look at my husband SO FAST I almost got whiplash. WHAT?! I didn’t just hear her say that… He didn’t seem to register what she’d said or the underlying meaning behind it either. It was almost like he was hearing every other word she was saying but not fully taking it in.
Read MoreI would wonder…. Who exactly was she talking about? Her husband? Us? Both? She would get into a car accident later that day and it would be deemed her fault. I can’t tell you how relieved we were to hear that everyone was ok, including our son, because he was in the car with her.
Read MoreIt had been about a year since she’d found out about her husband’s infidelity. Because they were still together and it had nothing to do with me I never stopped to consider whether or not she was actually happy with him.
Read MoreI didn’t realize it then but it would be soon I start to see she hadn’t truly forgiven a thing. Maybe she was trying… But it was still all there simmering just below the surface. I was her biggest trigger and I begin to wonder if that would ever change.
Read MoreI almost felt like I wasn’t supposed to like her this much. I’d only ever heard such awful things about her. I mean hell, I’d experienced so much at her hands personally. But alas… here I was, almost ready to throw out everything I knew because she just seemed so nice!
Read MoreHow could you with good conscious dance to encourage praise and attempt to set the atmosphere to lead others to Christ when you have your wife on one side and your mistress on the other? To this day my mind is still blown.
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